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Toluwanimi Debayo-Doherty

Save Yourself Till Marriage

Updated: Jan 12

Lavenders, Happy New Month. Welcome to October 2021. I am so happy to welcome you into this new, great, and beautiful month. This month is ours. Own it, claim it, and it will be yours. I hope you enjoy today's blog. As always, remember to like, share, comment, and subscribe. Thank you :).




In an industry like Hollywood, finding people who will stay true to themselves and remain is challenging and rare. Pure in any and every area of their life. The power of choice has redefined what purity is in our society, but in today's blog, I will be discussing sexual purity. 



Being a virgin in our society and world today is labeled as many things but great. She is holy and godly; she loves Jesus, etc. These are some of the criticism that comes along with being a virgin for many young females. Many factors contribute to personal choices, such as staying pure until marriage. I recently came across an article about an artist in the American Music Industry who was about saving herself till marriage. Her name is Ally Brooke Hernandez. She is a 28-year-old virgin who has faced criticism but also love and support for her personal decision to save herself for marriage. She describes her decision to wait for marriage as a vow she made to her parents, and in return, her parents gave her a ring that says "True Love Waits." Her story is rare to find. 




Many young females choose to engage in sexual intimacy before marriage for a variety of reasons, such as peer pressure and pleasure. Growing Up, I was always told, "Do not have sex before marriage; it is bad." But not only this, but also that it was a sin against God. But the thing is, sexual purity is a choice like every other choice in this world. My mom often tells me, "Your destiny is in your own hands, and you are solely responsible for your choices." This sounded scary to me the first time she told me this because it meant I was an adult and I was responsible for my actions. Talking about virginity and being a virgin is a sensitive topic for many young females to talk about. Many teens avoid talking to their parents about this topic because it is personal and sensitive. But sex is a part of life; it is natural, and God made it for a purpose and reason. "Do not defile the marriage bed before marriage" comes from 1 Corinthians 6:18-20. It says, "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually sins against their own body. 19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20, you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies". Sexual immorality comes with many different consequences, such as soul ties, embarrassment, and getting disgraced. Every person you sleep with leaves a part of yourself with that individual. You will always have an emotional and mental attachment to that individual. 




Sex before marriage is more profound than two souls coming together for pleasure, entertainment, or pressure. Destinies are combined. Lives are changed. Choosing purity is a path many young females struggle with. Being a young female myself and being raised in a Christian home, I know that many females my age do not get to be raised in a Christian home but still make the personal choice to keep themselves till marriage. Keep yourself to marriage; it is not a cliche. Self-love is more than telling yourself you love yourself every day or telling yourself you love yourself in the mirror every day. It is also reflected in our choices. I know that there is constant and so much pressure in our society to take and keep pure, but sex is personal. Choose your own path, the right one, and the pure one. There is so much to relationships than sexual intimacy and intercourse. You have to discover the individual, know the individual, get to know them for who they are, love them for who they are, and after a reasonable period or specific period of developing trust, love, confidence, respect, and true friendship, you can then proceed to marriage. The foundation of every successful marriage starts with making the right choices, and the most crucial choice is to stay pure and celibate. 




Suppose you are with me on this journey to staying and remaining pure till marriage. Be sure to comment in the comment section by simply commenting, "I am in, too," or liking the post. I hope you enjoyed the blog post. As always, remember to like, share, comment, and subscribe. Thank you, and See you Wednesday :). 





If you are reading and you do not believe in God. I encourage you to have an open heart and mind and to give God a chance to prove himself to you. Please say this prayer: "Heavenly Father, I am a sinner and come to you to ask you to forgive me for my terrible sins. Thank you for dying for my sins and bearing the shame on that Cross so I may have eternal life. Today, I confess with my mouth that I have sinned against you, and believe with my whole heart that Jesus is Lord, and God raised Him from the dead on the third day. He is seated on the Heavenly throne and intercedes on my behalf. I give you my heart, soul, and life and pray that I will obey thy Word. In the precious name of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Amen." If you just said that prayer, welcome to the family of believers. Congratulations!! Heaven rejoiced; God is so glad and happy to have you in his family. I will be praying for you and your walk with God. Feel free to contact me on the next steps in this new chapter in your life. Just fill out the keep in touch form on the home page, and I will get back to you as soon as possible. Thank you once again for reading. God Bless You. Watch out for the next blog next Friday. Have a blessed week, Thank You. 




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